Opinion: Abortion is Anti-Woman, and Here’s Why
I distinctly remember standing in the entryway of our two-story home as a teenager watching my mom pace back and forth downstairs. She was crying hysterically because of a decision she had made when she was 16 years old. This was a decision she had made motivated by fear, a decision made because she was vulnerable and hopeless. At the time I was thinking, “why now?”
The fact of the matter is, for my mom at least, an abortion she had had from an abusive relationship had negatively affected her into her 40s, as it does to countless other women. I don’t remember saying anything to her other than, “it’s okay, Mama.” Confused––yet hurting for her. What’s a teenager supposed to tell her mom in that situation? Beats me. It had bothered her for as long as I could remember. She went on to have four children, but the abortion she had was eating her alive; she’s not the only one.
For those of you that know me personally or through my Instagram, you know that I don’t beat around the bush. You also know that no matter the amount of backlash one conservative can receive, it hasn’t silenced me or my outspoken stance of advocating for life.
Many in our society tell women they can’t handle what they were biologically capable and made to do. They give women a way out through abortion –– rather than empowering them through pregnancy, they push for the termination of it. Abortion isn’t just a political issue, it is a moral issue that dehumanizes life. A few of my followers sent me their chilling abortion stories who asked that hey remain anonymous. Here are a few testimonies that stood out to me:
“I had a medical abortion with the pills. It was the worst pain I ever experienced in my life. I have never gone through something like that. I don’t wish that on anyone. I do regret getting an abortion. I felt like adoption would have been a better option.”
“I got called back and when they performed the ultrasound, I was hit in the gut when they told me I was 13 weeks along, and I was referred to other clinics that did second-trimester abortions. I didn’t tell anyone what I was doing. At this point, not a single person knew I was pregnant…I was asked if I wanted to see the ultrasound and I said no. I heard the tech say, ‘there’s a heartbeat’ and that’s when it hit me. I knew I shouldn’t be there. I knew I had to leave. I didn’t think I could raise two kids alone, I had a great job but couldn’t afford daycare for both kids on top of all my other bills. I lived 5,000 miles from home. But something was telling me I’d be okay and to just get out of there. When I was called to take the medicine to start the process, I just cried and told them I couldn’t do this anymore. The most disgusting part of changing my mind was the fact that these people working here tried to convince me otherwise. ‘I’ve had one it’s okay…It sounds like it’s what’s best for you…you need to do this to move on with life.’ I didn’t let them get to me. I left knowing I couldn’t kill my daughter’s brother or sister. I couldn’t live on with my life knowing I could have two beautiful children. I went home…our son is now two months old. He is the light of our lives.”
“‘Drink this with water’, as she handed me a pill with a small cup of water. Right then and there I knew this was it. I couldn’t control myself and immediately started crying. What I really wanted was for her to tell me I didn’t have to go through with this, that everything will be ok, that I don’t have to take this pill and I could go on with my life and my five, almost six-week old baby. But she didn’t. No words of positive encouragement. Instead, she just held my hand as I was crying and waited for me to take the pill. Little did I know the worst part of it wasn’t over! I’d need more pills and I was instructed I’d have to stay at home from work while my body went through the motions of getting ‘rid’ of the baby. It was a Friday evening, I had been wearing pads all day because of inconsistent spotting, it was explained this was normal. Then I needed to pee. I sat on the toilet and suddenly felt something I had never felt before. A blob of clumped up blood came out. As soon as that came out, I knew what it was. I instantly bawled and hated myself for what I had done, knowing it was 10000% wrong. How could I have done this?”
You probably observed the recent passing of the Reproductive Health Act in New York allowing for abortion up until birth that NY Governor Andrew Cuomo and others around the U.S. are cheering and celebrating unashamedly as this was signed into law. I have since heard every justification there is for abortion: from as early as a woman is made aware she is pregnant until she is full term, and I am truly convinced people know deep down it is immoral and that is why they push so strongly to convince others and attempt to justify their actions. You have also probably seen from your Facebook timeline the bombardment of uneducated opinions, to your local modern-day feminist and the out-of-touch-with-reality celebrity, that if you are against abortion, you are in fact anti-woman or anti-women’s “rights.” But these same individuals that make sure to push abortion on us, fail to mention the serious and life-long repercussions of abortion. PASS (Post Abortion Stress Syndrome) is the psychological aftereffects of abortion based on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Planned Parenthood and other pro-choice outlets will tell you that women who experience anxiety or depression after an abortion were already susceptible to those things.
“A woman with an unwanted pregnancy is as likely to have mental health problems from abortion as she is from giving birth,” Planned Parenthood’s Emotional Effects of abortion file reads. “A woman with a history of mental health problems before abortion is more likely to have mental health problems after abortion.”
Planned Parenthood has also been caught on tape covering up for human traffickers and rapists on multiple occasions. I think it’s fair to say they lack proper judgment of right vs. wrong, a woman’s well being and a woman’s mental health when they’re in the biased business of promoting their money maker––abortions. But, that’s just me.
Abortion is easy if you disregard the physical or mental health of a woman. Abortion is easy if you disregard the life of the child. Those who are pro-choice cringe at the term “baby” when describing what’s in the womb; they want to dehumanize whatever’s ‘in there’ as much as possible to justify their stance on devaluing life. They’d rather use the term “fetus,” but the origin of “fetus” is: Latin fētus (“offspring”, “bringing forth”, “hatching of young”). Offspring. Bringing forth. Hatching of young. In no way are these words dehumanizing, but in fact, bring life.
Women do feel remorse. Women do feel regret, guilt, shame, depression and anxiety in the aftermath of an abortion. This is true for the majority of cases. I care too much about the well being of women to blindly support an emotionally-driven decision that would affect them for the rest of their lives, a decision made out of fear and promoted by society. There are other options. There IS hope. Your story doesn’t need to reflect the tear-jerking regrets of my mother and so many other women who live with that pain. Your future can be different. You can build a legacy with your sweet children and give them a shot at life regardless of the circumstance they were conceived in. You may not have it all together right now, and quite honestly, most people don’t when they conceive and have children. But, I promise you the gift of life will impact your life in amazing and fulfilling ways.
Planned Parenthood and other pro-choice advocates want to push their agenda and pull at the heartstrings of pregnant women already vulnerable and lost. Some are struggling to make ends meet, some struggling with the fact that they’re pregnant. Some are persuaded by a physically or mentally abusive “loved one” that abortion is the answer. Anybody who suggests it isn’t truly taking a woman’s well-being into consideration. On the contrary, we should be encouraging women that they can and will be amazing mothers, or to have a loving family adopt the life––the life with a heartbeat that they’re carrying. No matter their financial circumstances, there is help.
No amount of facts about the reality or devastation of abortion will change my mind. I could tell you about the founder of Planned Parenthood, Margaret Sanger, and how she was an outspoken racist who pushed for eugenics – but even with all the facts there, people don’t seem to be phased by that and still show their support for the organization. What’s needed for a drastic switch from a pro-choice stance to a pro-life one is a heart change. If America as a nation starts valuing life again, instead of dehumanizing people, devaluing the sanctity of life and justifying abortion, then we can be a nation that stands for the preborn and for the hurting women that feel abortion is their only choice. We can instill hope and strength into women contemplating abortion instead of fear. As a nation, we need heart surgery to see the preborn for what it is: life.
I believe a revolution is coming. I believe thousands of eyes are being opened. Voices of love and life aren’t afraid to speak out anymore. We are standing up for the voiceless and the preborn. I believe that this is a pivotal time in American history and my prayer is that the days of glorified abortion and infanticide are ones we read about with utter disgust in history books. My hope is that our current generation and generations to come will fight against the dehumanizing of people; just like slavery and the Holocaust pushed to do. Love isn’t giving someone an easy way out. It is finding a way through hardships and discovering a way when there seems to be no way at all. Being pro-life is pro-woman. It is pro-life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness of not only the mother, but for the life inside the womb.